I was sitting at the bar a few nights ago, decompressing after work, when I was asked by someone how old I was. The woman seemed to think that there was no way that I was old enough to be sitting in that bar drinking that martini legally. I had to actually show her my license to prove to her that yes, I am 29, and yes, that is my real age.
She got up and went to have a cigarette and came back, again looking quizzical. She proceeds to drag me (unwillingly) back into conversation:
So how is it possible that you are 29 and look like you’re 18?
I was kind of taken aback. Usually people just tell me that “you’re so lucky to be such a babyface, you’ll look young forever” and leave me alone. But no, this woman needed an answer.
I’m only 24 and I look 35 already. It’s not fair, you must tell me your secret!
So, I took a second to consider it. What is it that I do that makes me any different from this woman? The only answer that I could come up with is this:
I do everything that makes me happy. End of story. My job sucked, so I quit it and became a chef because I love food and cooking makes me happy. I just got engaged to someone who makes me happier than I’ve ever been at home. I walk my dog at least three miles every day so I get a lot of fresh air (and perspective when I need it). I quit smoking, do my best to eat well, try to stay in shape and laugh every day. I do the things that make me happy. Yeah, that must be it. Happiness keeps me young.
I think she expected me to tell her to go buy some crazy expensive face cream and get a massage or something. This was definitely not the answer she was looking for. She just kind of said “oh” and walked away to have another cigarette (“could you watch my drink again honey? I’ll be right back”). Sure, lady, go smoke another butt.
She came back long enough to tell me that “that is the best answer I’ve ever heard” and pound the rest of her wine before paying her tab and heading out. I couldn’t figure out if she had simply had enough, couldn’t handle the answer because it made her think too much about her own sad life, or if she just got lost in her own head and needed to go home.
Either way, the whole interaction got me to thinking; what is it that makes me so genuinely happy? Why is it that I can be so happy doing this thing, cooking, that so many people hate? And then I came around to thinking about food in general and why it is the centerpiece to so many happy memories for so many people.
Then I remembered something my dad used to talk to me about a lot (particularly in the less-happy times in my life): Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.
stay tuned – more tomorrow!